Most of the problems we have are created in our heads. And most of these are relationship problems. Problem with our parents, with our spouses, with our siblings, with our boss, with our colleagues, with our customers, with the guy who horned at us, with the waiter who is taking too long, with the loud, obnoxious auntie on the train… You get my point.
We then like to create our own sense of ‘no choice’, essentially limiting our own freedom by using these problems that we create in our head as excuses.
“If only my parents had brought me up better, I would be more successful than I am today.”
“If the bus driver had driven a little faster, I wouldn’t have been late for the interview and would not be still jobless now.”
“If not for that incompetent CEO, the company will now be in a better situation.”
We limit our own opportunities and growth by creating these problems in our heads in our relationship with others. Essentially in this way of thinking, our life is controlled by what others did to us. There’s nothing else we can do to escape.
But that’s not true. These occurrences with others happen to us all the time. We do have the power and ability to take control from these externals, and live the life we want.
We just need some courage.
My thoughts 